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By: Nina Mistier
Do you wish on stars and birthday candles? Do you make wishes on wishing flowers and blow them out to the universe? Do you take a moment
each day to give thanks for what you have and what you want to have? As Thanksgiving approaches we are reminded to be thankful for all we
have; our homes, families, pets, friends, health, clothes, food, a job and the ability to endure tough times in life and know we will successfully
come through the other side better than we were before.
Life is sometimes so busy, stressful and overwhelming that we run through each day without enjoying any part of it or feeling love for a precious
person in your day. It is so important to be conscious and present in each moment as we go through our day and know that each experience
good or bad is part of who we are, what we are feeling and calling into our lives. If you notice more unhappy moments than happy, loving
moments, maybe you need to pay attention to how you feel and what you are giving out. Happiness brings happiness and negativity draws
negativity; it is actually physics.
Take a moment each day, first thing in the morning or last thing at night and be present, be in your body, breathe and set an intention. Thank
God and the universe that you are here because you are a miracle that is here for a reason. If you think about the millions of sperm that race to
fertilize one egg, but only one sperm wins that is quite a miracle. That coming together of one egg and one sperm creates a unique and special
human being that is meant to be part of our human family. It is important to know how special and unique each one of us is, but we are also
interconnected even though we don’t know one another.
Go outside and look at the trees, listen to the wind and watch the sunset. These are beautiful miracles of life which we are a part of every single
day. Look at your partner or spouse with love even if they aggravate you because the miracle of their creation was brought into your life for
whatever reason and length of time. Look at the miracle of your child that you created with your love and your body.
We become unhappy because we lose our sense of freedom. We feel imprisoned by our lives, our responsibilities and don’t feel appreciated.
We can create a sense of freedom immediately by realizing that everyday we get to make choices. We do not have to do again today what we did
yesterday. If you do you are bound to get the same results. If you are in an unhappy relationship and feel stuck, make a plan. Having a plan or a
goal for your happiness will give you an immediate feeling of control and freedom. You need to take responsibility for your own happiness and
not wait for another person to change in order to make you happy. It doesn’t work that way. You have to do you and they have to do them.
People only change if they want to not because someone else wants them to.
Believe in your happy ending, believe you can have, be and do what you want. See it in your mind and feel it in your soul. Take a moment
everyday to give thanks for what you have and thanks for what you will have. Anything is possible, even probable if you are persistent. Don’t
give up! Believe that you are meant to be here and you are meant to be happy, but you must do the work to make it happen. Remember to
breathe and be present. Happy Thanksgiving!
Nina Mistier is a Holistic Counselor, College Counselor, Writer, Yoga Instructor and Mother who has practiced in New York for over twenty years.